Rape of the Books within my own family and home

Sexual Assault is about power and one enforcing power over you. It is not about love or done in the best interest of the victim. It is an act of aggression and control. When I am in a situation when someone is trying to over power me, may it be a date or with someone who wants something from me regardless of who I am what I have done and what I know, I feel like I am back on that bed, in my room, fighting to get my control back.
Today my Aunts and Uncle came to my home in Logan promising to only look at the information I have been using to fill in the gaps of my family history records. Any normal loving family would love to have their aunt or uncle over to show them the work you have done and receive praise and possibly encouragement in return. This is not my story.
They came, she looked. I asked her what she had done with the other 6 or so books, she said nothing. I asked her if she had a PAF file, she said her daughter did. I explained to her how I need the hard copy to upload it to the computer so I can be easily accessed by anyone. I showed them how to access the information online and to download it and share it with anyone as I continue to update the information each week. I showed her the tools I was using and how I was doing it. I proved what my two years worth of experiences had taught me. I taught them how with examples and demonstrations.
She showed me a paper that my grandma signed all the Family History work and books, including stories and pictures to my Aunt. My Aunt, in my own home, told me she was taking all of the books and going to do the work. I said no. She said she was the older one here. I frankly said this is my home and she may leave. I was pressured. It was two against one. I was cornered in my room. The books behind me the Aunts in front of me.
I felt cornered, betrayed, and disrespected. I was confused at how selfish an Aunt a family member could be. I did not understand this expression of love - I understood it as bulling and forcing power and aggression on me. I buckled - not my cryng, I saw no way out - She walked off, out of my home with the books, not saying one word about the work I was doing or the effort and research I have done.
I could not stop it from happening to me all over again. She pushed and harassed and I gave in.
I am confused why I must fight with my aunts. I am hurt. I feel robbed and cheated and small. If I cant be treated well by my own family, who can I count on?
What is this incident going to make our family get togethers like? I dont know if I can believe what she says to me or even if she cares about me. I have to live with this forever.
If it were possible to talk to her and she listen I would say that I felt abused, lied to and disrespected. I feel that you dont care what work has been done to unite our family only that your name is on it. I feel that if you are the older and wiser one that you say you are you would have been humble enough to work with me and to listen to me and be willing to share all that she had. I would tell her that it was very disrespectful to come into my home and treat me in such a way and I would inform her that she will not be welcomed back into my home if she was to continue to treat me like I was a lower class then her and did not deserve her decency and respect. I would express my disappointment that she was not a good example to me and she used her power over me.
I will continue on. Unlike her I can still do research and keep trying to fulfill my family line. This is a hobby I like to do and I have for far too long already let her make it be unpleasant.
I do not know if it is worth it but I did get her to write :

I will return the family hy information when I return to Utah. Dec 1 signed Sue O. 11/23/07 and Sarah Merrill signed as a witness

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Is there no way to stop loved ones to enforce power over me?